Heading to a wedding? Have to make a speech but don’t want it to be just an ordinary dull wedding speech or wedding toast like everyone else’s will be like? It’s only natural that you want your speech to make an impression. If you’re the best man, the father of the bride, or just someone who cares about the newly married couple a lot, creating and saying a terrific speech that will leave an indelible impression on the wedding guests can make their wedding day even more special.
There’s a difference between being funny and being rude. Quite a few people think it’s perfectly okay to tell embarrassing stories about the newlyweds. Well, it’s not. Some time ago, my brother was invited to be his best friend’s best man. The evening before the wedding, he must have been more jittery than the groom. Although my brother has always been a very social and confident person, he had a lot of trouble making his best man speech. He had no idea what he was going to say and he was so jittery about having to face all of the wedding guests and making a touching and memorable speech.
Some people have a horrible fear or public speaking. If you’re one of those people, read on for the same advice and helpful hints that I gave my brother for you to utilize in creating the best speech you ever made. If you follow my advice, there will be absolutely no danger of you committing a faux pas or humiliating yourself and the newlyweds in front of the guests.
Good Posture Is Important
When making a toast or a speech, make sure that you’re standing up straight. Wait until you have everyone’s attention before you begin your speech. The fastest way to get the wedding guests’ attention is by standing up. Having good posture is one of the most important things in public speaking, at weddings or elsewhere.
Plan Ahead, Write A Draft
Don’t just get up and make an impromptu speech. A good best man speech is planned, written down, corrected, practiced, and learned by heart. Take my brother. He started writing and practicing his best man speech several weeks before the wedding. If you’re really good at public speaking and you have a lot of experience doing it, only then should you just go out there among the wolves and wing it. Otherwise, plan what you’re going to say beforehand.
Practice, Practice, Practice!
Nothing could be worse than giving your best man speech and not once taking your eyes off your notes. Make sure you have the whole speech memorized. If you have to have your notes with you, at least don’t fiddle with your notes.
Don’t Embarrass The Groom
Maybe you and the groom have been friends for a long time and you’ve had a lot of not-so-clean fun together, but that’s not something that people want to hear about. Giving a best man speech isn’t your chance to shove your groom’s skeletons out of his closet; and infuriate the bride and humiliate the groom. Don’t regale the wedding party with tales of your strip joint adventures.
Keep It Short And Sweet
Nobody likes a long-winded speech. Make your speech short, but don’t forget to make it reflect your sincere happiness at the couple’s union. Remember that the wedding is about the bride and groom, and no one else.
I hope that this article was able to help you be more prepared to make your best man speech. I wish you the best of luck!
Wedding Speech Examples
Here’s an example of a wedding speech. This is one I did at my son’s wedding recently and while it may not be the perfect speech, and certainly not one that anyone can copy, you can give you an idea of how to personalize a wedding speech to make it most meaningful:
To the bride –
We’ve said it before that we and I fell in love with you right away. Now, you and I do have a disagreement – the donut thing. We’ll have to agree to disagree whether Donut Bank or Kryspe Kreme are the best donuts.
The things we like about you are that you that you are a very unselfish. You are sensitive to others…the gifts you give are carefully chosen for the person as you’ve noticed what their interests are.
When you came to house the very first time, you seemed very comfortable and at home – and that’s exactly the way we want you to feel whenever you come.
We admire you for the work you do, which really is a ministry… and your heart for God.
To the groom… according to your mother – you are perfect. Like Alaina, you are a sensitive to others, easily likeable, you have an easy disposition – to use the bible phrase you’re “not easily angered.” And we hope you know that we are very proud of you in every way.
And as you know Alaina’s parents have early on accepted you into their home and family.
Your Parents
You both have parents who’ve – maybe I should for myself – imperfectly at times tried to show you what marriage and a family is. It’s our prayer and 
expectation that you to take the best of us, and make it better in your family.
Tom your parents have prayed that you would find a wife like Alaina. And Alaina, we believe your parents have prayed for you to find a husband like Tom. You two do seem to be made for each other.
And now today as you embrace each other in love, you want to acknowledge your families, whose love and nurture has brought you to this time in your life. And as a token of your love you are presenting these roses, symbols of eternal love to your mothers.
Insert Rose Presentation
Acknowledge All
Today, you are surrounded by brothers, sisters, grandparents, other family, and special friends. And we are all incredibly happy to here today to share in this very special day with you.
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